December 29, 2011
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Waiting....
Sometimes, I find it better to just wait for things. To intentionally drop out of the system in one way and let it go. Do you remember those finger trap toys when you were growing up? If you try to pull out both fingers at once, the trap just gets tighter. You can't remove both fingers at once.
But good luck, at times, explaining to your parents and friends "Oh, I just decided not to go to college this year. I think I need to work and figure out what I want to be." Or "Dating? Eh, I'm not really seeing anyone. I'm not ready for a relationship, and I want to be at my best. Just letting it go." And yes, they'll ask whatever happened to Chris or Jamie or that job at General Motors or what not, and they'll see your waiting as a sign of surrender. You gave up, right?
But sometimes...waiting is common sense. Waiting is taking back power that was robbed from you. Waiting is actually the toughest, best thing a person can do.
What will you deliberately wait for in 2012?
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learning the way to forgive myself & others
Very true; we mustn't let the pressure of other people's timetables crowd us onto the wrong train.
2013
Obligatory smartalec comment out of the way, this is a good point. "Waiting is taking back power that was robbed from you." Here, here. It annoys me that waiting, or even changing your goal is seen as a sign of surrender or "quitting." Some goals or desires are just simply unrealizable. Simply saying that you want to do something isnt' a guarantee you'll be able to. In my opinion, continuing to chase a goal after it's become clear you won't obtain it is actual surrender...because it means you don't have to do the hard work of changing gears, starting completely over.
I keep thinking about the finger trap... if you keep waiting, you're always trapped. Instead, you have to put pressure on it from the outside so that you may escape the inside trap. Building surrounding or environmental opportunities is not waiting, it is setting the pawns in place so you may make your move when it is time.
P.S. No one is ready for dating. You will be at your best when you have found someone whom you can share your heart with. It rarely happens when we're feeling perfectly ready. It just happens.
heh. Your question is a good one... one that I'm having a hard time answering. Can I wait to develop a sense of style? Or dye my hair blond?
Maybe I'm not one to wait? Maybe, I'm a doer? In fact, I think the people I am close to would agree with me. I am a doer.
Seriously, I can't think of one thing that I intend to 'wait' on, but perhaps that is just how I choose to think about life. I think, perhaps, that I'm going to 'wait' or delay on-line dating, but I'm not waiting for the sake of waiting. I'm changing my approach. I'm going to immerse myself in activities that fulfill some other void in my life and also forces me to mingle with other / new people. Like backpacking or camping or rock climbing or any adventure sports.
I LOVE this! God has to continue to train us (me) to wait, as we (I) keep running ahead of Him!
Isaiah 30:15-28...
15 For thus said the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel,
“In returning and rest you shall be saved;
in quietness and in trust shall be your strength.”
But you were unwilling, 16 and you said,
“No! We will flee upon horses”;
therefore you shall flee away;
and, “We will ride upon swift steeds”;
therefore your pursuers shall be swift.
17 A thousand shall flee at the threat of one;
at the threat of five you shall flee,
till you are left
like a flagstaff on the top of a mountain,
like a signal on a hill.
18 Therefore the LORD waits to be gracious to you,
and therefore he exalts himself to show mercy to you.
For the LORD is a God of justice;
blessed are all those who wait for him...
I will deliberately wait for 2013. Ahahaha.
This really shows me once again the benefits of alienating friends and family over many years and having given up LONG ago and just generally being anti-social and hateful of people butting in.
You show up places still single, as you've always been and no one ever even THINKS of asking about a girlfriend...
I only end up waiting, because I've worn myself out from fighting. ha! I do agree that waiting is an excellent approach, but I'm still waiting to get there...
SO true. This year I was preparing to apply for a masters program in teaching. As an undergrad, I was able to take a class that counted towards that masters program. I absolutely hated the class and realized that I did not want to be a teacher. At this point, I decided to do what was right for me and what I really wanted to do all along and apply for the writing program. However, I only had a month before the deadline. I decided to ignore that deadline and wait for the Spring deadline. My dad did not understand this decision at all. I tried to explain to him that it would have been nearly impossible to finish up my last semester as an undergrad and get together 20 pages worth of papers to submit. On top of that, I would have had to see if my history classes counted as "writing intensive." If they didn't then the deadline would have been impossible because I would have had to take the GRE. Long story short, the best decision for me was to take a semester off, even though my dad gave me crap for it the entire time.
Your thoughts touch exactly where I'm at right now. For me, the things I'm waiting on are linked to trust. I'm in a meantime of growing to trust myself better and trust in God deeper. "Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and He shall strengthen your heart, wait, I say on the Lord." Ps 27:14 In the Hebrew sense of the word there, waiting = with eager expectation and hope. So I do heartily agree that sometimes choosing to wait is completely about gaining your authority in your life back from the places we can end up giving it away to.
I will wait for God to remove bitterness...and teach me how to give it to Him sooner, rather than later. My heart wants to be "cured" right now, but I know its a process....maybe it won't look like I'm doing anything, but He'll be working on me! Great post.
I am done waiting to lose my virginity. I am going to do something about it!!
I shall wait for whatever that awaits for me in 2012
Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.- Psalm 27:14
^ This is still one of my favorite verses but for a time it was my theme. I felt like I was in a place of waiting, of struggling, or perseverance. These times are sometimes chosen and other times thrown upon us, but we have to go through them all the same and they will help us grow if we use them right, cry out to God, and exam our self. My only concern is this: Do not use waiting as a way to get stuck. You dont want to look back and wish you had taken more actions. I only say this because in my own life I would sometimes use "I am praying and waiting" as an excuse not to move forward because I was scared or worried or disliked change. Just be very aware of what is going on inside of you during this time and take peoples advice only as the smallest grain of salt. Always remember you have to live with you decisions, with your life, they do not, they only observe your life from the outside. I wish you good things man and God Bless!
I shall wait for the right job opportunity to come along.
I am deliberately waiting for God to reveal His next plan for my life.
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