March 10, 2012

  • Oh Potential...So Close and Yet So Far

    I felt like I should do another dating vlog, because one of you (thanks!) actually likes them. Just some comments on potential...and how eventually, it's not good enough. You may want to turn down sound a little. I should get a microphone.

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  • If it's any consolation, I collected the Charlie's Angels cards.....Actually, I don't know what the hello that says about me or you or your or my potential.....

  • Can't live on the what ifs, live in the moment.

  • This is the #1 reason for why I've decided that I must leave my boyfriend.

  • I love potential, too. 

  • So, what, you're just giving up?    Come on, you're much too hot a commodity to take yourself out of the game completely.

  • @Thatslifekid - This. Also, I initially read the post title and thought this had to do with harmonic functions. 

    EDIT: I will qualify though that if you live too much in the moment, you can get screwed. 

  • Potential will only get you so far.

    On an unrelated note: I like your glasses! :)

  • apparently I have LOTS of potential. when I meet epople, many just assume I am in a relationship, engaged, or married already. They assume by my presence and character I am married (unless the read my blog and know me already, ha ha). Funny that strangers see that potential and are surprised I am not "taken" while all those females I have been interested in before, in my past, rejected that potential, or maybe they were not really aware of who I was and who I had the potential to become.

  • When I first met the man who's been my husband for 29+ years, I thought he had absolutely NO potential. In less than a year and a half, we were married! God moves in a mysterious way. ;)

  • Do more of these, I am one of your fans that like'em!
    I like people who aren't so judgmental. You and me would probably make good friends in real life teehee.

  • ok. i agree... but sometimes the potential that you see is in the relationship and not in the person. i.e. they are already a great person, you're just not initially sure if the connection is there for you. i think that kind of potential should be explored in some situations- though not all.

  • @zynverwex - First: YAY, always glad when you stop back. When I saw you commented, it made my hour--not, day, mind you, but definitely my hour!
    I think that sometimes, I can see another person's strengths and my strengths lining up really well. But I'm too optimistic at times and I neglect the weaknesses that can erupt when two flawed people are together.

  • "could be" and "should be" have the same meaning in the real world. "could be" = "they are not"

  • dating... can be a headache  

  • Dating is difficult because so many people have such strange behaviors about it. Dating should just be about getting to know someone, without the added rules and pressures. I almost never admit to "dating" anyone, because it carries too many unnecessary connotations.

    People also allow their judgments to be clouded by their desires for what they want someone to be. The more you want to see a certain quality, the more you will see it, even when it isn't there. Then one day, you wake up and realize that all your feelings for this person were not actually for that person at all - they were feelings for an imaginary person that you made up along the way.

  • This is a great post, but I agree with the other posters. You cant look at the end game as you rip open that first pack of cards. =)  You could enjoy opening each pack savering the chalky white gum for what it is, a stand alone adventure. Once you have flipped each card in that pack and read all the stats, then prep yourself for the next pack.  Somewhere down the line when you stop projecting what "could be". Then you will look back to see a "binder" full of memories and that "could be" "might be" has become reality.

  • @greek ... but you're ALWAYS gonna have two flawed ppl and there are ALWAYS gonna be weaknesses in a relationship. growing together is what makes you stronger. the guy i'm w/ right now- we're really different. he's quiet and shy, i'm loud and outgoing for starters. and when we first started dating we had a really difficult time having a conversation. still do sometimes. but mostly we've grown together and figured out how to communicate and we can talk for hours now (on occasion. lol. he's still pretty quiet). if i had judged our relationship from the first few convos on the first few dates, we would most def not still be together. yet, i saw potential, and we have lived up to that potential (imho). yes there have been times when potential was a flop, too. yet, it shouldn't ALWAYS be overlooked. just sayin'.

  • I agree with your line of thought.  I think you need to be willing to accept the package AS IS.  Only acception: if it's clear they really want to change that thing that's bothering you, independent of you.  Then it may be worth it to see how that goes.  That's the only way I'd keep up a relationship more than a  friend though..  My 2 cents.:) 

  • Highly offended by your fashion & food stereoytype lol (kidding!) When I was 11 I used to buy packages of NKOTB trading cards, LMAO I can't believe I was such a loser, I think I eventually had the whole set. So I know they excitment, haha.

    lol, first time I have EVER watched anyone's video on here and I loved it!

  • I hope you make more vlogs.

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