October 28, 2009

  • Quotes to Argue With, #1

    "Slow and steady NEVER wins the race...especially if the race is for a woman's heart."
    Thoughts? I might make this a feature--pick a rather extreme quote, let you argue with it, and figure out how true it really is or isn't.

    Check back around 5PM for a guest post...

Comments (22)

  • Great creative idea for a post!!!! I love quotes and collect them. In my experience...and I'm "old" and have been around the block a few times...the way to a lady's heart IS slow and steady. Rushing usually only ends up badly. And unsteady is not a feeling that brings assurance or security. Just my small 2Cents.

  • No. Wrong. When a guy is too after a girl and trying too hard its annoying. Like if a guy is trying to flirt with me and *not* taking things slow, I get annoyed and sometimes creeped out. Also, someone who finds me worth waiting for is more worth it than someone who just wants me now.

    I mean, just look at Jim and Pam. Jim waited 4 years just to be with Pam, and they ended up  married. He knew she was the one, but she was with someone else, so he chose to wait for her, because he loved her.

    Waiting sometimes equals good. I'm not saying don't go for it when you have the chance, but sometimes taking things slow is better. And if you don't have a chance with someone now, if they're worth waiting for then why not wait?

    Plus relationships for me seem better when things go slow. Like couples who just jump right into things usually end up fighting more. Take it slow, get to know each other more, then it will end up better.

    theend.

  • Interesting idea.

  • I vote it depends on the woman. Sometimes "slow and steady" is all that's left at the end of a bunch of fast-lane relationships. Slow and steady can be comfortingly secure and reliable.
    As it applies to me? Yyyyyeah, I'd say it'd win my heart. In fact, I'd say it did. I didn't suffer through a bunch of other relationships first, but we took every step in our relationship very carefully and with a lot of advice from families and friends. Been married five years and we are happy with each other, generally. :)
    ~V

  • I think it's dependent on the situation and the people involved.

  • it's not the pace it's the runner. some of us never stand a chance.

  • it depends..you have to know when to slow down and speed up.  so it's not slow and steady, infact speed has nothing to do with it.

  • You could argue almost any quote as invalid. Pretty much all have exceptions to the rule.

    In this case, I'd tend to agree with the quote--if you're talking about a girl who is uninterested. If you come on too strong, that's called "stalker-esque"--instant turn-off. Persistence pays..but not always. :P

  • it's semantics we'll argue when it comes to this quote. upon initial read, I heartily agreed. but some folks definition of slow and steady looks like a sprint to others. taking the entirety of the quote within it's context (the race for a woman's heart) and a race is normally a competition, then I believe the quote to be accurate. the slow and steady guy is going to lose to the guys who moves in and asks fair maiden out. nuff said.

  • Hmmm..Quote are great fun.

    Anything with the word NEVER in it is usually an un-true-since there is almost a situation for everything.

    When it comes to women...fickle creatures. Probably medium-steady would work the best. You don't want to leave one wondering about a guys feelings for one...but you don't want them to propose to you like your first date. So subtly showing your interest and then pursing the relationship at a speed both people are comfortable is best.

    It is interesting how much pressure is put on the guy in the situation. I think relationships are like a three legged race. Both participants have to be on the same page and working together for it to work. If one falls out of step or the team stops communicating..DOWN YOU GO!! But I guess that is not really related to the quote...just an interesting observation about-the race for a women's heart...grrr not such a good analogy... 

  • I'm old school. Slow and steady DOES win the race. I don't want to be having sex before I know what her interests, hobbies, family, and education is like.

    It also gives time to know them before you do anything major (marriage). Slow and steady does have disadvantages for if you feel unsatisified you can easily end it and no harm done (unlike marriage where you might accept the fact your SO is this kind of person and comprise...)

  • The quote confuses me, but the idea intrigues me.

  • Depends on the woman, depends on the situation.  Why is everything always a race anyway?

  • I'll give it maybe half credit.  A man who takes things too slowly can be frustrating, but steady is always important.  

  • Fast vehicle often meets accidents too:)

  • This comic says it all.

    http://www.xkcd.com/513/

  • I like slow and steady.

    I think that relationships are not a game and I'd like to be a long-time friend with someone first and learn about them in that way before entering into a relationship with them.

  • It truly depends on the guy and the girl.

    For me, you can say that Nate was slow and steady (we were only friends for a year before he fell in love with me and asked me to be his girlfriend), but you can also say that he was fast in that he only waited several hours after I broke up with my boyfriend to ask me to be HIS girlfriend. Ha. So how? Would you say he was slow and steady or fast?

  • Hmm...interesting.  I think it depends on the situation.  If you don't know a girl, better wait concerning anything romantic till the relationship has gotten that far.  If you know a girl, still give her some time but maybe not quite as much as you would for getting to know someone.  Having said that, I know a lot of situations that happen fast when the right people are there at the right time...my bro very much included.

    If it's a prince one is waiting for, better heed the counsel, "By long forbearing is a prince persuaded!"
    ~Sarah

  • I think that is a great idea for a post. I have a huge collection of quotes and love to use them and to read new ways of putting a spin on them. I think many a good man misses out on a chance with a girl he likes simply because he puts off letting her know how he feels until she has given up on him and turned her attention elsewhere. I know it sounds sexist for me to say that a man should make the first move but even today I find that most young women would rather not be the one to make the first move.

  • Start slow and steady. Let her learn what kind of person you are, grow to trust you, enjoy your company, confide in you etc.

    When the time is right, take the next step- which should probably not be asking her out. Start leaving her random encouraging notes or texts- send her flowers at work on days that you know will be difficult... basically start doing things that will make people around her assume that you're her boyfriend, because they'll ask her, and she'll have to think about you differently.

    After doing this for a while (amount of time will vary... but probably at least a week or two), hang out if you haven't by then. Look for blushing, intense eye contact (or aversion if that's unusual), and kind of squirmy movements. You're looking for things that say that something is different... and thus that she is rather off balance. Hint at how you feel... not all "I've loved you for forever!" which is really overwhelming... more like "I just want you to know that you mean a lot to me." or "I love it when you smile. Your eyes sparkle." *smile* 

    NOTE- You need to sound like yourself at this point! The goal is to make her smile, and to start moving into the potential boyfriend/husband arena. If you say something completely out of character, she may laugh at you- one of the hazards of your friendship. So sound like you, but a different side of you.

    Also recommended: touch her. Yeah yeah, get that out of your system now. A lingering hand on the shoulder is usually enough to gauge reaction. So, while saying something kind, reach out and put your hand on her shoulder. Does she flinch? Pull back? Stay there? Touch you back? Look at her face. What is going across it (if you have to pick one) "Ewww icky boy never touch me again!" or "Hmmm this is kind of nice perhaps I will stay." If you get a good reaction, you may now begin accelerating towards your goal. She is interested.

    If you get a bad reaction, then handle it as gracefully as possible, and remain in the "doing things to show that you matter to me" phase. Stopping will kill all chances you have. So press forward and then try again. Be prepared to accept that she might not care for you- sadly this isn't Disney so singing and being around aren't enough to win hearts.

    Still... the pursuit of her should be exciting, fast enough to throw her a little off balance (but only a little), and just awesome. Be a Roller Coaster, not a Carousel.

  • Slow and steady yes, but some guys move at a glacier speed lol

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