July 2, 2013
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As Xanga Changes...What will you do with your "Frenemies"?
Was thinking about how, over time, some former Xanga friends and I have argued, to the point of becoming mild enemies.Sometimes, there was a good, serious reason for us not to reconcile. Other times, our argument was rather silly, but it still left someone with hurt feelings and we don't talk like we used to.
So the question is, what next? In many ways, July 15th is a deadline of sorts. One could get nostalgic, remember the good times, and try to reach out to old friends turned frenemies. Or one could simply let the old arguments stand as they are and let the friendships continue to decay and then fall apart. There's no right answer here, just something I've been wondering about out loud.
Comments (16)
Huh. Now you are making me look back, wondering if I have frenemies here. I want to say, "no" cause you know, I'm just so nice. LOL That IS something to think about.
I'm fairly sure I have frenemies, but the truth is, I don't think I'll miss them, or that they even care about little ol' me. If they come to harass me on facebook or wherever I end up, well, that's a different story.
I don't think I have any unless you're mad at me now. Why didn't you tell me sooner that I was supposed to pick fights?
Same thing I tend to do every closing of a chapter- move on and probably lose touch. I'm terrible at keeping contact after the thing that pulls us together is no a major player in life.
People feel what they feel. If someone wishes to continue nursing resentment there isn't much anyone else can do.
It'll be a convenient way to sever any sorts of ties or communications with them.
I think it's the perfect time to say "I'm sorry" while you still have the chance/
I guess I like being ok with them, even if we never become close friends or never talk again. (i think i have only one lol )
way to recommened saint avis post she obviously took what i said out of context......i hate it here. Ive been treated like crap here for 3 years. Im glad this whole place ill tank........Its about time my suffering ended.......
@Jeremy_Sheer -
"Suffering" that you could have ended at any moment, simply by not logging in. No one forced you to be active here.
Your pity party fails.
Sigh. I miss the days when trolls were at least good at it.
Time to burn bridges. It should be fun.
i appreciate this post.
I don't like to see anything decay into nothingness if you can help it anyway...or unless it's the troll people bragging about how much money they make off the internet ...
@g-dawg - you are the very reason why Xanga should most definitely crash and burn the fact That you're telling me I'm not welcome here makes it almost certain that this thing wi tank This community sucks and nobody really cares about anybody they thrive off people's comments and glamour and really hope they get the top blogs I'm so glad Xanga is not meeting its goal will teach everybody to treat people with respect
@Jeremy_Sheer -
He never said you weren't welcome. Not once.
He simply pointed out that you can't complain about hating it here for three years, knowing every time you logged in by your own choice, and be taken seriously.
When rational people hate something that is elective in nature, they elect to no longer participate.
Irrational people use it as a tool for sympathy.
A tool...for a tool.
I made what peace I could with the people I was able to at the time... but unfortunately there were definitely some friendships that were irrevocably damaged. =(
Some went back to acquaintances, others went back to strangers I have no contact with. Considering the poison that they were spewing, that's the best possible place for them.
I don't need annnnny more negativity in my life.
I will be sad that after 8+ years that Xanga won't be here for me to come back to... (Unless I'm reading things wrong and Xanga has been saved??? o.O)
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