January 22, 2016

  • Rationalization

    Suppose that you have done or said something inappropriate. Or no, you didn't do it, but someone is gossiping that you did, or exaggerating your action to make you look evil. What should you do?

    I'm a big fan of debate, of explanation. And certainly, I would say, you should defend yourself! Let people know you've been wronged, or perhaps let them know that, say, the guy you punched deserved it, heh. Tell them the backstory, the sidestory, the whatever story.

    But...I'm not so sure anymore. If you and I know each other, and someone tells you something bad about me, the power is in your hands. You can believe the other person, choose not to get involved, or ask me for clarification. And so, if I need to fight for myself to explain...haven't I already lost? Isn't it already over if the trust of those who know me isn't enough to protect me and my reputation?

    Hmm. I think I'm just a bit weary of the constant social media struggle of justification, rationalization, and brain-washing, heh. I think people know me by now. I've wasted a bit too much time in the past protesting too much, methinks.

     

Comments (3)

  • For what it's worth, I haven't heard anything negative about you, ever. Of course I am only on Xanga, not those other social medias and so I don't get caught up in a lot of the dramas. I suppose there could even be people over there talking about me too, but I don't know it.
    Since you don't post here too much anymore, I only know a bit about you, but you seem like a genuinely nice guy; thoughtful, intelligent, hard working, and caring about your friends, faith and family.

  • Drama on Facebook annoys me. Thankfully I've cut out most of those people and I'm down to like 96 friends there and I'm still cutting a few more.

    Drama and rumors are so quick to fly all over the place. In a time where we can get information instantly (and still leave plenty of time until the truth or all information comes), we're so quick to reach conclusions and say what we want.

    Sigh. Modern times.

  • I can relate to all of those feelings. :-(
    Yes, ya gotta wonder, where is dialogue these days...
    but even more, where is the loyal trust of friends that know you... or should know you anyway.

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