September 11, 2007

  • GreekPhysique Gives Fashion Advice?!

    OK, this is really sad...but someone on Xanga was talking about why she could be more attractive when she is dressed down, but less attractive when she is dressed up. I couldn't resist explaining this, because I know many women who fall in this category. See the comment section for the reproduction of my comment, ha. Isn't it sad to see my glee in talking about something that I should know nothing about? I am the most unfashionable man alive most days.

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  • Ooh (rubs hands together) this is one of my favorite topics of all time! Please, let me take a moment to compose myself (takes moment).

    Ladies often don't realize that there is more to looking good than just being attractive in a photo where you are wearing your best clothes and have your best makeup/accessories/etc. on. There are several other possibilities under which a woman may look good. Some women look better when they are in casual clothing rather than in dresses, and look better when their hair/face is "natural" rather than combed and made up. There are several good reasons why this happens, most of which I think are related to the face. For one, sometimes women put their hair up/comb it off the ears when they dress up, but this makes their face look unattractive as compared to hair down. Or, the opposite occurs; the girl who usually puts her hair in a ponytail puts it down, and it doesn't look as good. Other times, women pick colors that are too strong (black or very dark) for their face, and the face can't hold up to the attention that is directed to it. Once in a while, a woman dressing up will try to hard to cover up what she thinks are weaknesses, but are really strengths (i.e. covering freckles, or adding extra eyelashes when it wasn't necessary, or overtrimming eyebrows). This also results in poor attractiveness when dressed up. Or, she puts too much blush on her cheeks, and that overemphasizes a part of her face that isn't as attractive.

    Another reason is that some women have less ladylike/curvy figures than others, and those women may also have poor taste in fashion wear. So when a woman wears tight/revealing evening dress, for example, and she's a bit overweight, she looks bad; clad in a t-shirt and jeans, she looks good. Etc. Also, some women overdo accessories when they dress up, but have no accessories when they dress down. No feminine accessories (earrings, bracelets, etc.) I believe make men feel that a woman is more approachable, more like them, because it makes her somehow less feminine, and yet more feminine. Don't ask me to explain, ha.

    Even odder, some women don't look good at all in pictures, but look great in real life. This is usually due to having just one odd face part (big/small nose, ears, or mouth) that isn't that obvious when you're looking at the whole person (or into their eyes) but is obvious in a photograph, where everything is still. The other possibility is that some women look great in motion (i.e. talking and being full of life) but are not so attractive when still and unmoving.

    The world is made up of men who mostly have not yet noticed these categories, and thus it means that quite a few attractive women are underappreciated. Good news for me, bad news for those women, sadly.

    Ha, am I enjoying this too much? YES!!! And I am the most unstylish, un-relationship-trained man in the world. Forgive my enthusiasm.

  • You're really funny.

    You should start a new xanga, under the title of DrStylique. You can perform a make over on a person once a month as your major feature, and then answer fashion and dating questions every two weeks. I see this becoming a big hit, especially in Japan, but less so in the Eastern half of the US.

  • lol! someone on xanga... yeah i thought it pretty funny that you knew so much. I mean really! you're pretty detailed... way to go! i responded some on my site... am about to fall asleep but wanted to let you know i saw your comment and replied first.

  • I think it's true.  It always takes me longer to get ready when I'm dressed down, but I feel more confident that way.  I think I look my best in jeans and a t-shirt or a t-shirt and a skirt.  Dress up clothes make me feel uncomfortable, which is probably why I don't look as good.  After all, confidence is one of the most attractive features about a person.  When you're the most comfortable, you're the most confident.

  • GP and I both know rather athletic girls that look dreadful in evening wear, but I suppose it is difficult to excuse wearing your basketball or soccer uniform to all occasions if that's what you look best in.  You never know when you'll need your shin guards though.

  • Impressive powers of observation!  So much for those people who say that women only get dressed for other women because no man ever notices.  Can you make the same critique for men? 

  • Yeah, though the idea of doing it based on a particular girl and telling her her own personal 'best look' is best!

  • I've heard that before.  I was in the middle of putting on foundation the other day, when my good friend/roommate's boyfriend (one of the few males I allow to see me with no makeup) made the observation, "You look much better without all that stuff, you know."

  • That's kinda funny, cause I'm not pentecostal. I'm a Bible-believing Christian, I take God at His word.

    Thanks for commenting. Interesting!

  • True that, you didn't. I was just saying the view isn't pentecostal, but in the Bible! :D

  • Oh, the randomness of Xanga!

    I couldn't agree with you more about the whole dressing up vs. dressing down thing, GP. Lots of makeup can make a woman's face look hard, in my opinion. Especially if she doesn't wear much makeup in the first place... not only is she inexperienced in applying it, she is also jolting everyone who sees her because they are not used to her looking like that. I think part of it too is that men don't like change, and to see a woman who is usually very neutral in her makeup and clothing suddenly come out in red lipstick and a daring outfit—well, it's almost inevitable that the initial reaction would be negative. It's not that she necessarily looks bad; it's just too much change all at once.

    And your point about photos! yes! I've been trying to articulate what it is about some women in photos that makes them look less attractive in a picture than they do in real life. Great observation there, GP. I do think there is hope for you yet

    My family has dubbed me the "Fashion Police." When I lived at home my dad had to pass inspection before I would let him out of the house.  

    Ninjitsuknifer wrote: You never know when you'll need your shin guards though.

    Is that an oblique reference to my shin-kicking sister? You needn't worry, you know—she is on the other side of the world for the moment

  • Bokgwai, I noticed the address of DrStylique is still available...ha-ha. I put jokes in my tags for my truthful faithful readers, and you are one of them.

    Tootingbec, if I could do that, then I wouldn't be single right now, I'm sure. My powers of observation apparently don't apply to myself, since I don't see myself. Or something. Sad, isn't it?

    There is ALWAYS hope for me, wisewoman83 :-p please. See, you also made me realize something that is even sadder about all of this. When does a woman overdress? Why when she thinks a man might ask her out, of course. So here Mr. Smith has been starting to like Miss Jones as they study together, or what not, and she was in jeans and a t-shirt most of the time. Finally, Miss Jones notices this. Then Miss Jones shows up dressed up, looks worse, and actually ruins her chances with Mr. Smith! Life is cruel, isn't it? And let's not forget the guy corollary. The guy is funny, laid-back, charming...and then he realizes that he might have a chance with this girl, and he's controlling, weak, and indecisive. Terrible! Absolutely terrible! Why do people switch tactics instead of staying with whatever worked for them?!

    And as when Amber does and doesn't look good...yeah, no good way to answer that, ha. I'm taking the 5th; I still don't feel safe enough even if she is overseas.

  • Gah! Let me set you straight, GreekPhysique. Women have a wide variety of clothes available to them, and they like to have a change once in a while. Sometimes, in fact, they may dress up regardless of whether they notice that a boy is noticing them or not.

    On a related subject, I have noticed a disturbing trend. The athletic girls are wearing shorts and jerseys with flip-flops and...and this is the bad part...putting their short hair in a pony tail at the very crown of their heads, slicking the loose pieces down with an unknown substance, and securing the entire monstrosity with a rubber band around their heads just behind the ear. AGGGHHH! I would say that practically any outfit is preferable to this.

  • RYC: Fair point, jalixx3; I phrased my sentence wrong. I should have said "Sometimes when women want to impress a guy, they dress up more." It certainly does sound weird the way I phrased it. Women dress up for a variety of reasons, such as formal occasions, etc., as do men.

  • It falls under the heading "trying too hard." Same thing with someone who is too large to fit in certain clothing making a go at it.  Trust me, as someone who also has a rather large girth...it's better to just wear clothes that fit, then try to fit in clothes that don't.

  • GP wrote: There is ALWAYS hope for me, wisewoman83 :-p please.

    Ack! I meant as far as fashion goes... not anything else. Jeepers.

    *rolls away doing somersaults because both feet are in her mouth*

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