November 15, 2007
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What physically attractive feature is meaningless to you?
What ballyhooed aspect of beauty doesn't matter to you? Every day we're bombarded by messages that every part of us must look good for us to be beautiful or attractive to anyone (there's a difference). For example, as a guy, I supposedly need to have a close shave, a 6-pack of abs, nice clothes, and good cologne. But what attractive feature doesn't matter to you?
I'll go first. For me, it's clear, unmarked skin that is overrated. I consider many types of skin inconsistencies, such as scars, birthmarks, and freckles, to be rather attractive. Even wrinkles and face indentations have some charm. It just makes the person more real to me to see those marks, almost as if they are more honest in some way. Perhaps my warm feelings toward skin inconsistencies are because I have some of those myself.
Anyway, even acne really doesn't disturb me that much; besides if I behave myself (wait, don't eat while you read this) maybe I'll get to pop the zits. :-p Just kidding. But seriously, while I understand that some people have serious acne problems and infections, the occasional pimple really doesn't bother me that much. It's not like I spend hours staring at someone's forehead, cheek, chin, or neck anyway; so unless that pimple is very prominent, it's not likely to be distracting.
Ok, now that I've embarrassed myself by confessing that I pine for the facially flawed, it's your turn. What beauty characteristic don't you care about?
EDIT: I'm amused by how many of my female readers are nauseated by this. Looks like my decision to pass on the lady lepers joke was the right one. :-p
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Comments (23)
Legs. I know guys whose primary physical attraction to a woman is in her legs. And while there are women's legs that I'll admit are particularly nice aesthetically, whether because of gracefulness or curvature or whatever, they don't really affect my overall physical attraction to a woman in any measurable sense.
I think this is the first time I've actually made an ugly face while reading your blog. That's just gross. haha. Okay. What a different type of question you pose here. The smell of a guy isn't a big deal to me... unless, of course, you can smell him two hundred feet away. Then we have a problem.
Hmmm. Haven't really thought about that. Nose, perhaps? Of course, I find the oddest things attractive, so I'm not the best person to poll.
^I should probably make the same disclaimer as galumph. Sometimes the features I find attractive on a person will even puzzle myself. I remember once being rather enamored of a certain young lady's shoulders.
No one should have to live with acne, especially as an adult! There is help! See a dermitologist!
I say this because my mom had horrible acne her whole life, and I was having huge problems even before puberty. I took a prescription medicine that fixed it for life. (I have great skin now) If acne doesn't go away by face washing, there is help!
In any case, I can see why other "blemishes" don't matter.
oh, and for me it's "muscles"
^some of us can't do accutane, and don't want to take the risks associated with it.
that was gross.. i cringed as a iread it.
i think this is an interesting post cause i think the physical matters way more to a guy. For me its just a plus given that the person isnt unhealth. unhealthy and unattractive are two different things.
physically speaking i could tell you more about what mattered then what doesnt. I've dated individuals that i thought werent attractive...but they had other things to promote them. see as far as what's attractive and what's not i'm kind of picky and will often find someone as attractive but not too attractive physically. I hope that makes sense. If it were a perfect world and i could have attractive insides and attractive out, I cant think of anything i dont care about.... being built is good, six pack is good, good hair is great, height is a necessity. maybe i dont care too much about eye color... there ya go.
I don't care about zits. I really honestly don't. I'm glad that you don't either. More people should be like us!
Obvious mutations, like a third hand awiggling out of their femur or eyes that spit out laser beams, are always a plus.
I love your Skittles picture by the way.
Vulcans from the future are the sex, though.
hair. my llustrious wife b has done everything with hers -- including shave it -- and she's still a major hottie.
What?! You skipped on a lady lepers joke? I'm so disapointed in you... Oh yeah, the question... Actually, my emotional attraction for a guy determines the physical. And I've never been prone to the pretty boys, either - they bore my eyes. You keep bringing this type of topic up - feeling lonely?
^ I will only admit to being lonely if it means people will send me free baked goods and offer me large amounts of money. :-p Seriously, though, when was the last time I posted on similar topics? It was June/July when I last talked about romantic stuff, by my count. Sure, I post on romantic-ish topics a fair amount, but that's because comments multiply like wild rabbits on such things, and I get free advice from intelligent, attractive Christian men and women
. I mean, really, I think I show great forbearance by NOT posting about this type of thing every week; it's the only guaranteed comment-getting topic I have.
Oh, and mess with each of you:
CR, good point. For some reason, walking around complementing ladies on their tendons doesn't result in dates; who knew?!
Cherise, I too think that not all of us care about scent. I had colds a lot as a kid, so I have to admit, I can't detect scents very well anyway.
g, CR, see, that's the type of thinking I'm hoping to promote. Don't just like what everyone else likes: be different, if your taste really is different.
ffw, another good one.
rr, hey, thanks for being honest. If that's what you like, that's what you like. Now if you'll excuse me, I'll be crying into my box of jelly doughnuts, knowing I'll never be buff enough.
Abf and Nin--we're all weirdos, which is great.
fjm--who doesn't like martial artists/theologians? ha.
bo--Ok, ok, I'll answer the question. I'm going home for Thanksgiving, so I'm not sure if I feel less lonely or more lonely than usual. Being a man, I don't really feel emotion :-p so I can't tell.
the proverbial armadillo is not an attraction. especially in a speedo. in fact, speedos are just nasty. period.
I would say the use of cologne is meaningless, but wait! It's not meaningless because I strongly dislike it when men wear cologne. Eye color truly is meaningless. Otherwise, everything matters when I'm looking at men in a general sort of way. When I think of individuals, there are a great many things I don't care about, but what doesn't bother me in one person drives me nuts in another.
For one to send baked goods, one would need an adress.
i like chubby guys, not super skinny ones.
i also like beards and long hair on guys. just not super long.
If you ever do care to find solace in baked goods, let me know... I bake a mean cookie.
To answer your question, none of that physical stuff really matters all that much to me. I'm more attracted to a man's personality and character than anything else. There have definitely been some exceptions, but most of the guys I've dated/liked/had crushes on were pretty average-looking. But they all had incredible personalities, which made up for what they lacked in the looks department, in my opinion.
RYC: YES! It only took another trip of turning around and turning around and turning around again, but I found the library!! So exciting
According to some friends of mine, I only date "losers" and I can do so much "better". Honestly, a sense of humor is the one essential I need in a relationship. Well, I guess there are others, but I think that humor is one I need most. (I may change my mind.) I've dated tall and VERY thin, shorter than me and stocky, scary muscle mechanic guys, black, blond, and brown haired individuals. I don't care much on appearance. The one I would count as least mattering? Race, probably.
I went to school with a gorgeous girl named Rose. She was actually perfect. Her bum was huge, but in a nice way. It's watching men of all ages lust after her behind that just makes me annoyed, lol, cuz men slavering over anything isn't the most attractive thing ... to the point, "curves". I don't believe curves are more attractive than a body which is naturally thin. As long as it's natural, I'm fine with it.
I forgot to say that this girlie Rose is a very good friend of mine and I'm not jealous of her at all, like girls tend to be jealous, because she's not conceited in any way at all. And I mentioned her because she has an obsession similar to what you mentioned: every time she sees a friend with a pimple someplace in their face she leaps at them and pops it. I'll never understand the mindset behind this habit lol
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