January 26, 2009
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“Why are you single/not married?” Take 5
Why are you single? Take 1.
It’s the summer of 2007, a fifteen-hour car ride with my best friend, and we get around to talking about girls. Ok, who am I kidding? We always talk about girls at some point, but today talking isn’t good enough. He asks me why I haven’t asked so-and-so out, why I’m not dating anyone. I try to reply, but he’s relentless. Things get a little heated. I get so mad I punch his dashboard, and it might have been him had he not been driving. Why am I single?! Might as well ask me why Rob Schneider still gets movie roles or why women go to the restroom in packs! I have no idea, ok? None! Come on, man, you’re supposed to be my friend!
Why are you single? Take 2.
It’s later in 2007, a long meeting with my boss, and she asks me personal questions for once, including THAT question. I stammer out some answer about wanting to date someone who shares my culture and beliefs. She gives me “the look” that only authority figures can deliver. “You’re being too picky” she says, and I nod my way through her brief lecture. We get back to business.
Why are you single? Take 3.
It’s near Christmas, 2008, and my mom is being a mom. Ever since I started my job, I can’t hide behind the crutch of school to answer that question. I decide to actually answer the question for once. So I sit down and tell her (mostly) everything—the attempts that bombed in 2008 and the attempts I’m making in 2009. She listens to it all, mostly without interrupting, and she makes some good comments. Oh, she’ll still ask again. But I feel better for having explained that yes, I am trying on occasion, I’m just incompetent.
Why are you single? Take 4.
It’s 2009, and two different Internet strangers ask me that question in the same week or so. I’m initially taken aback, but by now I’ve learned not to take the question as a threat, or as an insult. Yes, I am single. No, it’s not because every woman in the world is blind and fails to recognize how wonderful I am. I know why I’m single now. I know what I can control and can’t control. I know a little better what I should compromise on, and what values are important to me. Yes, I’m single, and yes, it’s frustrating at times. But I also know not to judge my worth as a person by how many contacts I have in my phonebook. So sure, buy me another dating book, offer to introduce me to a friend of a friend, tell me that I’m a nice guy—it’s kind of you. I think I can answer the question now without needing to justify myself or taking it the wrong way.
Why are you single? Take 5.
I’m single for many reasons, some of them out of my control, some of them not, some of them good, some of the m bad. But I’m also single because, as corny as it sounds, I truly believe that I’m learning quite a lot by being single. I won’t deify my bachelorhood, or my future wife, or any state in between. I just need to bloom where I’m planted, be willing to learn from wiser people and books than myself, and I think I’ll be just fine. Will I still try to date and fail, generating hilarious misadventures? Sure! But hey, at least it makes for some amusing stories, once my pride recovers.
Comments (116)
I'm with you sir...don't settle.
great post. I definitely feel similar to your predicament.
good post. Especially that last part.
I so identify with what you are saying here. It originally frustrates us, I think, when we're single 20-somethings and 30-somethings and people seem to think that means there's something WRONG with us -- or that we're somehow sabotaging our own chances by being happy and content where we are.
Since when did it become a crime to be satisfied with each of the seasons of our lives?
That said...I recommend this post for all singles and for all the people asking "why?" and trying to set us singles up.
I've been there plenty of times. You know why you're in the predicament you're in. Sounds like you're not interested in advice right now. Enjoy being single. Apparently, it's a gift.
Goshdarn, this was good.
I love that you tagged "SingleDoesNotMeanAlone". The truth!
I'm secretly glad that I no longer have to answer the why are you single questions from employers. I still want you to meet my pal Daisy one day.
She's definitely one of my more low maintenance friends and that's what I love about her.
we're in the same boat...i've also learned that most of the people who ask really do have my best interest at heart and its out of love they ask...
I heart this.
In many ways...I really miss being single. It's incredibly challenging to focus on yourself when in a relationship, whether it's good or bad. When it's bad you obsess, when it's good you're so locked in on that person I guess you obsess too...best to know yourself as well as you can.And never settle. But you know that!
Great answers!
*cringe* My mother was horrible. I could not date enough women per year to satisfy my mother that I was trying--and she would not take incompetence for an answer.
The fact is that, as lonely as I was, and as much as I wanted to marry, that I was fairly content where I was and was not in a huge rush, nor was I willing to date just anyone.
Well said. I love your last paragraph especially.
If you settle for less, you deserve less than what you settle for-- or however the quote goes.
Anyway, great post. I completely agree that you should continue to grow where you are planted.
It's worse if you're a girl. Seriously. When you are a girl, that question IS an accusation, because what worth is a woman if she's not a wife and mother by age 30? Why none, of course, if you ask the whole world. Got to get on it before your eggs shrivel up (I've actually had that comment made to me more than once). I usually answer is as follows: "I really don't know why, I'm just single." (While thinking: "shut the f*** up and talk about something else already!")
No shame in being single!
Same story. After 9 years of singleness, I get..."you're so pretty, why aren't you dating" or, "you're not a lesbian are you?"At church, it's how I'm introduced more often than not..."This is Kellie, our single mom" Like it's apart of my name! Finally, at the sweet age of 38, I'm totally content being single. When Mr. Right comes along, maybe I will have much more to offer as a human being, beauty on the inside that's seen more than the outside, and we will live happily ever after.
I loved this. I'm glad to know guys think this way too.
For the bosses and others: tell them that you like the Three Stooges and you keep remembering the one where Curly casually asks a guy, "So - are you married or are you happy?" and then tell them you want to answer "Happy" until you meet the woman that makes you think "MORE happy!". Ditto for the caring relatives if they aren't listening.
Congrats for not letting life end with marriage or the lack of it. Learning to be happy by yourself is going to do more to make your life one well-lived than anything else.
bless ya
cm
They quit asking when I said I was a lesbian (I'm not btw)
hmm, no one ever asks me this. well, older relatives ask me if i have a girlfriend, but that's just a small-talk question along with "are you still in school" "what's the weather like in Ohio," or "can you show me how to use Facebook."
this isn't the frontier, and i'm NO SETTLER.
I hope you know that 99% of the people who ask are wondering simply because they think you are wonderful, and they are surprised someone wouldn't have stolen you away already. You're an awesome catch, and if you were a little bit older, I would want to set you up with lots of my single friends. As it is, I'd be promoting cougarism if I did so.
(Btw, if I ever asked you while you're still single, I'm sorry...!)
@weedorwildflower - See, now I understand that it mostly is a complement, or a desire from the person to get to know me better
At first, I took it very poorly--as if it questioned my very masculinity or as if it were criticism. That's why I wrote the post the way I did--to show how I finally got the question.
And no, no, it's ok to ask why I'm single if it's you, because I know you'd be asking in a loving, kind way
Both of the ladies who asked me in "Take 4" really did mean it in a good-hearted way that I appreciated, and for once I picked up on that.
Nobody asks me this. I'm not sure how to take it.
@tooting_bec - For whatever reason, it took a while for me to be asked the question too, which is why I think I responded so poorly when I heard it at first. Feel lucky that no one has asked yet! haha just teasing. But you're a talented woman, don't take the absence of the question as some sort of insult.
You know.... I am in quite the strange situation. I'm on my third engagement, and everyone is BEGGING me to be single! I do admit, singleness was nice. I really did enjoy it. I honestly wish, just a tiny bit, that I had been single for longer between relationships. I suppose a lot of people just assume that I'm not comfortable enough with myself to be single, but it's really not true. I'm perfectly okay with myself. I just found someone whose company I absolutely cherish! So there you have it.
Let them ask whatever they'll ask. You sound like you're having a great time. Just think... one day, these "bad date" stories will be fantastic anecdotes for your children going through "bad dating".
Singlehood = fun. I field these questions all the time, but what they don't know is that I'm one step ahead of them. I just don't bother to keep people informed anymore.
I think you and a lot of people get insulted by the "why are you single" question at some point in their lives. I'm glad you've come to terms with it. I think growing up we don't quite realize the compromises and the tough decisions our parents have made to become a family. We have the impression that it all comes together effortlessly because that was how it seemed as a kid in the aftermath. Your parents aren't going to tell you stories about how they could have chosen someone else in front of their chosen spouse. At least not frequently.
@LucyWrites - Ha! Yes!
I used to hate that question. I mean, is there really a "why" dammit? I think there isn't always a reason.
That's never a fun question but even if you were in a relationship, you'd probably be getting questions about your relationship and where it's going.
pshaw. why are you single? because no one realizes how AWESOME you are, duh. their loss, I say.
Eh, what's the hurry? Marriage is for boring old people like me.
Agreed. I enjoy being single. Relationships are fun but I don't need them to make me happy. They need a lot of work anyway. But, wait, I'm still young. It won't matter for now. No one really bugs me about it yet.
Misadventures are always fun~
You know... a lot of people always ask me why I'm single too.
Honestly, womens are crazy, and guys aren't atractive (which they hear as me being too picky)...
too picky...
what a rediculous idea that is?
When else in your life has someone told you that you can't get first place?
When else did someone say "Strive for that Silver Medal, you deserve it!"?
too picky... how rediculous
I am the same way. What bothers me the most is that people ask me "You're so pretty. Why don't you have a boyfriend?" Being pretty or good looking should neither be a determinant as to why one is deserving of a significant other nor should it matter! I am single for similar reasons you are and I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I am learning, always learning, maturing and making mistakes while dating and learning from them. Such is life, no? As long as you're comfortable with what you're doing, then others should respect your choices I think.
Oh, you're a nice guy I'm sure you'll find somebody.
And when you do and you fail again, could you send them my way?
hahaha ;P
I'm still single, and I'm a lot older than you. There are lots and lots of reasons. I too could have married many times had it not been for my Christian standards. I will not compromise those standards, for anyone.
Single has grown on me over the years. I'm happy single. I do get lonely, I do love companionship, and I don't have a problem with being attracted to the ladies. But I'm not sorry. I've learned a great deal few if any of my married friends seem to learn. Maybe I'll marry and maybe I won't. I'm fine either way.
BP
Fascinating... you sound just like on of my best friends. Just a little more able to understand why you are single.
featured again! dang
@lauralen - Xanga has such poor taste, haha (kidding), they keep messing up and accidentally featuring me. I loved my idea for this post, but my execution was a little spotty. HOWEVER, I'm glad I made the last part much less personal than it originally was. Originally, I had spelled out the top 5 reasons I was single, and been rather honest about it. Not sad about that not being there anymore!
People ask me this question a lot, and I have just recently learned not to take offense.
I like being single, but I'm sure I'll be willing to give it up, if someone awesome comes along.
smart man never settle trust me it sucks. and yes we are defective.its better than being normal
@GreekPhysique - aww come on...be open. I know I am. Possibly too much. But I'm not featureable material so it's all good.
Yeah, I'm perfectly fine by myself. Being single was okay. I don't think I really did anything different other than not committed my feelings to someone. That's why I don't understand the term for open relationship because I'm pretty introvert.
my little brother just got married...and in asian cultures especially that means i am "behind" in the game. why do people always assume being single is a state to be pitied??! and they try to "assist" me in changing that fact...ahh, drives me insane! i think it's the people who are too insecure to be single and settle into relationships just to have one that have more of an issue...lol.
I'm right there with you... I'm single and learning *nods*
as long as you're happy! =)
@lauralen - I'll post it later maybe as a follow-up post to this--that way only the more interested people are likely to see it.
Of course, I'll tell you if you want via message or e-mail. It's just that I started feeling a little too personally invested the first time I wrote it.
Why am I still single? At 23 it is the final topic of nearly every family discussion..... you are so pretty,,,,, you are just the right age,,,,,, what about all those fine young men you are always doing things with,,,,,,,you know you should think about having children soon,,,,,,, can I set you up with.....and so on and so forth............... I now have all my reasons neatly packaged and I think I am going to put them on a business card or t-shirt or something........... here they are..................... Maybe I am still single because I keep saying no to every guy who asks me to marry him....... Maybe because the thought of marriage scares the he** out of me....... Maybe because I am tired of dating men who try change everything about themselves in an effort to be the one they think I want....... Maybe becauase I have yet to meet the fella I can't say no to...... Maybe because I am waiting on the one who knows who he is and is confident enough to be who he is even if he thinks I won't like it...... Maybe because the one man who might even be close to having a chance with me right now is on the other side of the USA................ anddddd maybe most of all because I am having wayyy too much fun right at this moment in my life to want to settle down.
~Echo
Most people I know who are incapable of compromise in relationships/dating are those who demand standards which they themselves do not meet.
Great post!
I have a few friends who remain single such as you and I support them 100%. They get questioned a lot on why, their sexuality, and lot of other graphic things and it's nonsense. It's their choice. At times it might seem offensive if that question is asked with many others, but most of the times it's just to get to know you better. Though I'm sure you have heard/realized this already.
Good luck!
I get that question a lot too. Grrr. But, like you, I've come to terms with it.
Great post, btw. I giggled when I read the line about Rob Schneider - yeah, I have no idea why he gets movie roles either.
This is a great post.
I've only ever heard this question from guys that are trying to hit on me. "You got a boyfriend? Why not?" Whatever the time and place, I understand the flow of emotions that comes with a question like that. The answer to why I am single usually lies behind the myriad of answers I've given in response to that question:
"I don't need boys"
"What kind of a question is that?"
And sarcastically, "My teeth are too yellow," or something equally as shallow of an appraisal of myself.
Thank you for being a single person content with being single, and for so eloquently displaying that here. It feels good to know there are others out there.
i'm so with you on this. i'm a girl and when i think about my single days, i realized that i discovered so much about myself and i was really content. don't get me wrong, i'm content now to because i have someone who cares a lot about me and wants to be with me, but it's different. don't worry about your friends being hard on you about being in a relationship, they're just jealous of your freedom.
good for you relationships are a pain in the ass anyways
Don't feel to bad- i think everyone who's single gets asked why alot like it's something we're doing wrong or a choice we made. Anyway, there is more to life and i think it's fine to be single.
Due to my culture, my parents want to me to get married young. Meaning, directly out of university.
I'd rather live my life to the fullest before I sign it away to marriage. Or even dating.
I love singledom too much to listen to them
Awesome post
-Rana
yes yes! I am very much share your experience with 'that question'. I wish you good luck
@ShamelesslyRed - You have no idea how...as men get older and are asked this....it feels. It's no different I guess than it is for women in that regard. I am glad that this is one of those posts that cuts right across the age gap and even cultures. I tip my hat sincerely to him for writing this post and for those who commented.
At least it's not self-evident.
Hmm. I've been single all my life. It would be worse, haha.
omg recently my family and friends have been asking me the same! it's nice to know there are others out in the world who feel the same about singledom as i do. thanks for sharin! =]
I hate being asked that question, because I don't really know why, either. When guys pull that question on me, "You're sooo hot, how can someone like you be single?" I usually answer, "Because only the lame-o's pursue me." xD That usually shuts them up.
But honestly, unless the person chooses to remain single, how are they supposed to know *why* they're still single? I find that that certain question should remain rhetorical.
I agree with take 5. Very cool! That is where I live with one difference. Can't get a date. My pride has to be recovered from when another one says, 'no'. Got a lot of 'no's' in the last six years. No 'yes's' yet. roflmao
there are moments when i wish i could have better defined my single self before being in a relationship.
I just like to say I hope you find your other half soon. =)
Life is beautiful when your in a relationship!
I know, right -_-? I get so ticked off when people ask me why I'm single..and I'm 17! GOODNESS, GRACIOUS. HAHA.
Found out second hand that someone one had asked this about me. Of course, I hear this question so often it runs through one ear and out the other most of them time. Only this time the way it was worded was somewhat haunting. It shouldnt bother us really, I think people assume we are unhappy. and maybe at times we are. But they need to get over it. Were not the only single person in the world...
haha don't worry about it~ just send them the link to this post when you get asked XD
Ha ha, yeah being single. It's not all it's cracked up to be nor is it that all wonderful to be the other end. Each presents challenges and learning to work through these challenges and truly understand yourself and what you are searching for can indeed help with future people you might date and possibly marry. It is kinda corny sounding, I agree, but until you know yourself how can you possibly claim to know anyone else. It's important to be stable in a relationship. Anyhow, don't worry too much about it, people ask me all the time or make snide comments about boys to me. I've had more than one person tell me how I got married in one of their dreams and had a bunch load of red-headed kids... Ha ha. It can be scary. Stay focused, you can do it.
hey someone should start a website where random people go on dates for no rhyme or reason just so we can tell our parents, co-workers and other concerned loved ones that we are going out on dates!!!!! omg! that'd be such a great idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ah hahahahahaha! sorry, i amuse myself easily! 2 props!
i totally agree with you! but my frd always saying (as i am single) that i am selfish, self centered.. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont y they care i am single or not!
=) nothing wrong with being single, and no point rushing into a relationship, only to want to get out, and get hurt in the process
kinda awkward with the boss though....=P
It shocks me that Rob Schneider keeps making movies too.....!
I`m wondering what the hell is people`s problem? Why is coupling so damn important? We were born as individuals, we`ll die as individuals and, looking past all the romantic rhetoric, we live as individuals. No-one should need anyone to complete them. Besides, finding that person you do want to share your life with should be much more serious, thoughtful issue than most take it as. We don`t need justification for being single, it`s every human`s natural state. If anything I think we should be asking the couples "why are you a couple?" and make them justify themselves.
Its not a crime to be single and i believe that when the right time comes, you will settle down. I mean every married man or woman was once single. Atleast this is the time to experiment, dah! its allowed so that when you finally decided to settle you do it perfeclty. Anyway, take your time and never rish for big decisions like settling!!
amen and well-put
I know you don't know me, and if my commentary is unwelcome I apologize, but this really caught my eye and I had to share a little something with you (if only to keep you hopeful).
My brother is twenty-seven, very very intelligent, cultured, handsome, athletic, makes great money and is one of the most genuine people I've ever had the pleasure to meet. He has these very unique features, both in physical appearance (He has a patch of grey hair that he's had since he was nineteen. I think it's charming and gives him character.) and in personality (He has an amazing talent for making people laugh. I've never met someone who can brighten your worst day faster than he can.), and he's just an all-around well-liked kind of guy.
Up until last year, he had the worst luck with women. He dated girls who cheated on him, treated him like he wasn't worth their time, said terrible things about him, broke up with him on major holidays after he'd just bought them expensive gifts or taken them on vacations and other heartless things people are capable of doing to crush any hope inside the hearts of others. He put his entire life into these girls repeatedly, and time after time he got the same depressing results.
It just so happened, on New Years Eve last year, he met his fiance at a party he wasn't even supposed to be at...and all because he was wearing an argyle sweater with pinstripe pants. She thought that was incredibly attractive and the rest is history.
What I'm saying is, she's out there (probably learning what to contrast you against), she's going to find you on the day you least expect it, and it'll all start over something as simple as a fetching argyle sweater.
Why are you single? You're just waiting your turn. Who knows....you could be next.
gooder.
great post
I'm single because all of the girls that I've liked havent liked me back, simple as that. Good luck to the both of us, and thank god that we're able to be patient and cautious instead of throwing ourselves at every cute girl we see like a pack of wild dogs. I'm sure our future wives will appreciate it.
People don't ask but... I'm tired of being single. I have a crush on a guy and half of me wants to rush it while the other shakes its head to remind me that if I were to give advice to myself it would be:
You're to young and it is too fast.
"and I think I’ll be just fine" ---- yes, you'll just be super fine
I love that you're comfortable enough with yourself to be single and proud of it. It's refreshing to hear of someone not obsessed with finding someone or settling for mediocre.
We have enough mediocre things in our lives, love and relationships shouldn't be one of them, especially the ones with ourselves.
This was very well-written; congrats on getting featured.
I get asked the same question a lot of times now that I'm a 23 year old woman. In Desi [link] terms, that means that I've become ancient and am now incapable of having kids. I tend to hide behind the school excuse, but next year, I'll be out of school and hopefully working...will have to find a new excuse.
I too like the "SingleDoesNotMeanAlone" tag
I hate having to explain that sometimes though.
FIrst of all, I'm very impressed at the number of comments and responses you are getting! I need to be more active on Xanga, as some of the stuff I write...every now and then....is not a waste of time!
Ok, down to business.
I also emphasize in your dilemma of being constantly asked why I'm still single. Fortunately, it's typically from the stance of "you could have any woman you want. So why are you single?" and not the "You're single, so there must be something wrong with you."
However, I think it's primarily an issue of time and the ability to be picky. To those people that tell you you are too picky, you ought to ask them about their relationship status, and if they got to be with the person they're with because they had low standards.
aww this post is really sweet
I hope you do eventually find someone that will tell others: No, I'm NOT single. Up yours!
sounds like you know what you want, thats absolutely great.You live you learn. Thanks for sharing =)
Better to be single than with someone you shouldn't be with - rock on single peoples!
Tell them your single because there is too much awesome to go around and one person could not possibly handle it without their head exploding - that's my go to response.
Ugh, I do hate smug married couples/smug daters though who think my life is devoid of all things good just because I'm not shacked up with anyone. Having to hear about all their relationship woes is just the icing on the cake.
Thank you for sharing all the Takes. Take 5 was great in summary and gave good perspective.
Great post.
People seems to act like it's a curse to be single.
It isn't.
Eventually you find someone you value more than "just a date."
I quite happy being single at the moment, especially since I am still an undergrad. I really don't get though, why it's so bad to be single. All it seems to mean to me is that the right person hasn't come along.
I loved your entry. I subscribed to you because of it.
Wonderful post! I can sympathize.
Great post.
I hate that "Why are you single?" question, myself.
Nothing wrong with being single (though just about everyone I went to high school with is apparently engaged or married). It'll happen eventually.
: )
I'm with ya, kiddo.
I hate that question, especially from family members.
My usual answer now is, "I haven't found someone who can stand me!"
Haha, it usually shuts them up.
great post! loved the way u described ur thought process n how u came to terms with it
Can't someone be single just because they want to be single? What's the problem with that these days, I wonder?
Thanks for this post; for the honesty, humor, and encouragement. I can definitely relate, and it's good to be reminded that there's so much more to pursue in life than a romantic relationship- like wisdom and knowledge and personal growth. =)
Being single can be great and not so great. Every situation you're in, you're going to find pros and cons.
I have a daughter for Christ' sake and people ask why I'm not married yet.
Because I don't feel the need to rush feelings that may or not be ready to blossom.
Dude, you'll know when you're ready, and it's no one else' business. Have you ever thought that sometime when "Netters are asking you why you're not married, it's because it's a pick up line in a sense? Like, "Holy crap, you're not married, dude, jackpot!" Enjoy the question while you can, because when you finally do tie the knot, they'll want to know why you plunged. Go figure.
There was a wonderful and worldly entry I read last year about finding contentment in being single. I think it was called The Art of Contentment, but I don't remember the name of the one who blogged it.
I believe being single is wonderful for the people who are trying to find their niche in life and getting out of it as much as they can. Not that they're not ready to commit because I'm pretty sure they can be steady individuals, much more so than some people who are currently in relationships. The people you have relationships with are lovers you pick up along the way, not in a promiscuous sense or maybe it is, whatever you're into. Quite often I notice people using lovers as the solution to their problems, but lovers are there to enhance the amazing qualities you already have. Sure, life can get lonely and sometimes the bed might feel a little cold. But you might find someone incredible at first impression only to find a little down the road that this person might be just a little fuckin crazy. Then that empty space on your bed that you were brooding about nights ago, it's the best it can be for now and at least you're not in a crappy Motel De Truck Stop. Here's an ode to the empty bed space because being single is being severely underappreciated.
Man, I'm only 15, and people are constantly badgering me with that question.
Currently, I just don't feel the need to be in a relationship.
Of course, when I tell my friends that, they automatically assume that I'm just saying that because I can't find anyone.
Okay. It's true that guys don't ask me out for some reason, but that's not the reason I don't want to be in a relationship.
Nobody wants to hear that, though.
Oh well.
My mother buys me dating books. It's annoying as hell. I've dated four models and seven girls who have IQ's greater than 130. Why do I need help? Moreover, what are the author's qualifications for making his/her statements? I'm picky. I won't settle for dating "good enough" right now because I want what I want. And in the post-Stephanie (my most recent ex) dating environment, I've only got eyes on a couple of targets.
Damn! Nice answer for a topic like this. I wouldn't know what to say if someone asked me this upfront to me.
relationship is boring.
haha , yeah single life is good, but when you meet that person who might change your thoughts about staying single...
va va voom~ haha (:
I say stay single. Relationships just complicate everything and in the end, someone gets hurt. Plus, your last point is dead on: you learn so much about yourself and your own place in this world by being single and taking the time to get to know yourself and the people around you. Being single makes us become independent and independence is something everyone should consider as one of their personal traits. And one day, when you are ready and find the right person, a relationship with that person will be stronger, better, more open and honest, all because you know who are you. So stay single. I have. It isn't the end of the world and really, in the end, it's no one else's business why you're single but your own. Nice post.
~C.
@TheBigShowAtUD - Your old relatives don't know how to use Facebook? Really?
@Dare2BDiferentt - i'll teach them at the next reunion. powerpoint slides, and all. you may assist.
@TheBigShowAtUD - We need to make a video of it and put it on youtube so old people from now on won't need help learning to use facebook.
Only then, we'd have to teach them to use youtube so they could actually watch the video on how to use facebook.
sometimes when you get to a certain age, and are good looking, people will ask you the question a lot. I get the question a lot too.
yea, i now how u feel
haha~
When people question you like this, don't you feel like just poking their eyes out?
I know I do, because it is not a crime to be single.
I've told my mum/grandmother/other nosy relatives it's because I'm just picky.
Truth is, the dudes they want to introduce me too are boring. Typical doctor, lawyer engineer types who can't hold a proper conversation and are mama's boys.
Sorry if I'm a non-traditionalist who knows little about her own culture, and who lives for art & music & smart coversation.
Congrats. It's good to see that there are some people who don't feel as if they must be, at all times, in a relationship, serious or not..regardless of their own happiness in the situation.
you posted the link to this on my site today- thanks, i totally get what you mean
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