July 30, 2011
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What Guys Wish Women Knew (article quotes)
I enjoy reading Boundless because it has so many interesting ways of looking at life. Many times I disagree, but some of the most interesting blogs I've read have been through the site. They had an entry on "What Guys Wish You Knew," and I had to say, I thought he did a great job of explaining how guys feel sometimes. Thoughts? I've outlined the basics here.
1. Drop the mask. --Guys don't like it when a girl doesn't seem real, trust me. We start wondering what you're really hiding...and yes, we have a fear of being "trapped" by a girl.
2. Put "looks" in its place. ("To appropriately care is good. To obsess is not pretty.") --I think it's always charming when a woman will come camping or play a sport or what not and not worry that she no longer looks her best. It's admirable, and it shows she's not afraid to be a little imperfect.
3. Be a warrior. Huge "yes" here, and I might write a whole entry on it sometime.
4. Less criticism, more support. I know, I know...begin the chorus of "You men just want dumb girls who will think you're awesome." But if a girl is being critical about all our mistakes, especially when we actually open up, we'll run.
5. Remember the good guy. Notice, not "nice guy who has to be nice" but the truly good guy. Yes, he may be so busy running around being good that he doesn't have time to FB chat you at all hours of the day. But he's worth looking for.
Male readers, did he get it right? Women, are you surprised?
Comments (20)
Pretty much. For #2, I'm reminded of a time I was dating this one girl. I was coming back from a tennis match and she had just finished going out for a run. We agreed to grab dinner; nothing fancy, just getting some grub at a fast food place. She then told me she looked horrible and sweaty so she couldn't go get food until she showered. I told her that I was sweaty/dirty too and we could both go grab food together looking the same! Still, she refused. She lost brownie points there.
Not surprised, but being married for 7 years I've picked up on a few things.
The supportive thing is HUGE. If us wives could manage to be that blend of encouragement that prods when necessary and cheers always, boy a lot of things would go smoother.
~V
I would like to hear more about this "warrior" business
These are good.
I am.
Just out of curiosity, what is it a woman has to do to be a "warrior" in a guys eyes? *picturing myself in a Xena warrior princess outfit*
yeah, he thinks women can only be perfect if they are all clean and made up. That getting dirty is imperfect.
I know what he meant was that he likes girls who are secure. Maybe he should have just said that.
Boundless is a book? Or website? Ask men had similar article.
@CuddlyKat - you are awesome for even mentioning xena hahah
Basically, be real...not fake or vain. Be kind and look on the bright side of life
I think the author did a good job. But we're talking about guys who are real and realistic. Shallow guys who are only out to get laid won't go for this list.
number three: agreed.
They all sound reasonable to me, except I don't know what #3 means.
Pls elaborate on "warrior" here.
I'll have to understand warrior thing, too.
I look forward to the warrior post. Just as a side note, girls don't really like girls who obsess over looks either. I hate going swimming with girl friends who refuse to get their hair wet, etc.
#3... I AM A WARRIOR!!! *does some sort of crazy indian cry/call*
#3) I don't want to be a warrior. I want to have a warrior. And I'm very thankful that I do.
This seems about right... Not sure about #3 though... although, my wife has saved my butt too many times to count... so... maybe...
@galadrielspitcher - @CuddlyKat - @lanney - @Levanna - @SasGal - @hi_sugarlips - http://greekphysique.xanga.com/753788030/why-you-want-her-to-be-a-warrior/ finished it. Just letting you know.
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