August 27, 2012
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Love is like Boxing
When I was younger, I used to think that love was a dance. You take your time. You lead and hope she follows your steps. You learn to give her space when she needs it to think things over. You don’t rush. Love takes time, it’s worth it.
When I was older, I realized love is a boxing match, and you’re always facing her doubts and fears. You score with hard-packed shots of intimacy to the head, mercilessly beating down her attempts at independence, her desire to not mess up like last time. When she asks for time, you pretend not to hear, and press into a clinch she can’t elude, shoving her against the ropes and whispering in her ear that the two of you are meant to be. You never stop punching, never, EVER, because when you stop her doubts and fears grow and she overwrites your memories in her head. You just keep punching like a frenzied boxer until finally she herself throws in the towel and arises out of her corner. She takes your hand and raises it high, and you both walk into the sunset…while her doubts and fears cower in a corner until the next time.
Aaaaaaand this is why I keep my analogies to myself.
(Old content, need new dark-humor post up to get rid of old dark-humor post. Circle complete.)
Comments (26)
That is brutal.
this is awesome
interesting greekie, very interesting.
You know a thing or two about Greek wrestling.
man... if that's the case, I've been beaten to a pulp. T_T BTW, Im doing NYC after New Year's! LIke jan 2 or 3rd.
"You score with hard-packed shots of intimacy to the head"
best part!
hahahaha I loved this.
Brutal but I see your point in this-kinda true dam!
You never cease to amaze me.
hmmm.....makes sense.
So youre saying I should gain weight then? Heavy weight bouts are the best, after all.
While I understand what you mean, the brutality of it brings to mind a scene from "Kill Bill"... you've got a frightening mind sometimes, Greek.
@Passionflwr86 - I'm a master of self-censorship. The Internet taught me well in my younger years. Shrug?
@IntoTheWind1 - The heavier the punch, the bigger the knockout you land. Wait...
@seladore - In a certain insensitive way, yes--as you might guess, I was recalling a specific moment or two.
@lanney - That's bad.
@passionate_kisses579 - Every so often, I have to surprise my readers.
@galadrielspitcher - Ha, I didn't expect you to like this. I've done it wrong! :p
@smile4leena - But a tasty pulp! ...wait, that doesn't help.
@RulerofMasons - Oily Greeks are experts at wrestling.
@grizzlybearr - And weird. But true.
@Thatslifekid - As intended.
@lovejennyy - Pleased you were pleased.
You are so romantic
so love is about beating a woman into giving up on her life and what she wants? it doesn't sound to me like there is anything loving about that at all.
no you did it just right. it was pretty funny haha
Ha, boy do I agree with you here.
I suppose it's better to be boxing than in a standoff. Isn't boxing a dance of its own?
hrmmm...interesting!
@squiddichino - Yes. It's a cheerful cold twist on the more lighthearted idea that couples are in a dance of love together.
hehe i'm still laughing about this
@oxlorixo - ha why thank you, I think.
@mrcolorful - I know that sounded odd. But sometimes a man must work really hard to convince a woman he is the one for her.
@galadrielspitcher - Yay! Thanks for the chat tonight.
@ShimmerBodyCream - Way too true. :/
@XxAllisonWonderlandXx - ha I know, different.
perfectly true and my feelings exactly tonight. women suffer from short term memory or something...always forgetting how much he cares...what is this incessent need to hear it again?
@rwinzeler - It's not about "hearing it again" as though one forgets how another expressed feeling. Instead, this need for repetition is about reaffirming the current validity/application of previously held sentiments. Without reminding someone else through verbal and/or nonverbal communication, how is anyone expected to be certain of anything involving another individual? People change and the way that they feel can be in constant flux. Men and women alike need to know why they are with whomever they have chosen/deemed worthwhile and receive positive feedback regarding the resources (time, energy, emotion) that they've invested.
@dAzEdNdEfUSED - thank you for that very intelligent explaination of my scrambled feelings:) i appriciate it.
I used to think this was true love, where a guy has to fight his way into a woman's heart. Literally, the only guys that could get past my walls were the ones that were the strongest and most persistent and masculine and repetitive but now I realize it's not fair to do that to him. I should be able to love him as he is and he should be able to love and take me as I am. He shouldn't be falling in love with what he thinks I am underneath it all or past the barriers. It's a bit cliche but a woman needs to learn to love herself and to be totally confident with who she is (basically without the doubts and insecurities) so that she can be truly ready for a loving marriage or relationship. Otherwise she's just fooling herself and him as well. Yeah probably completely off base but that's what I got from your post
A wise Asian man I once knew (which is hilarious because he acts more like a guy from the east coast than an Asian) told me Love is like war. You never relent and you never agree to any kind of treatise during the first six months. If you do, your opponent (the bf/gf) sees that you are weak and takes that opportunity to studiously plan when they are going to nuke your heart and leave you all alone with the fallout.
He was a soldier in the US Army and one of the funniest, wisest men I know. I didn't believe him about this at all as a teenager and through highschool. But now I see that love is just like war and it is exactly like BOXING. Awesome post!
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