February 20, 2013
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Which Signals Do Women Misread the Most?
Suppose you, lovely lady that you are, happen to walk into a party. While waiting in the drink line, a guy strikes up a conversation with you. He asks you many interesting, insightful questions, and keeps making great eye contact with you. Turns out you have several hobbies in common. "Wow", you think, "I definitely made the right choice wearing this dress tonight. This guy can't get enough of me!"
Sadly, you're probably wrong. Believe it or not, guys don't think about sex all the time. He might just be that excited about Arrested Development, your trip to Russia, the way you dyed your hair, or your major in biomedical engineering. Men tend to get passionate about things they like. Have you ever seen a geek in rapture about his favorite topic? That wide-eyed look resembles romance if you don't know the context. (Winces before typing this sentence)...Men compartmentalize easily, and we can strongly love one part of you without necessarily being in love with all of you.
Men, what other signals do women misread as romance?
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My confession: I've done this about umpteen million times. I like things! and conversations! and being friendly, especially with new or lost-looking people! Thankfully, I usually generate the sexual tension of a potato (ok, maybe I just REALLY wanted to use that phrase), and women usually catch on rather quickly that I really do care that much about their book choice and/or trip to Estonia, but it definitely can cause confusion.
I think it goes both ways though for both men and women. I'm pretty friendly and like talking to guys who I don't necessarily have any romantic interest in. I find it happens fairly frequently where if I so much as make eye contact or smile at a guy or you know, have a pleasant conversation about something we have in common they tend to assume I'm interested in them (I'm sure most ladies reading this would agree). But, since those same exchanges are similar to how I may interact when I'm actually into them and trying to get their attention or identify common ground I'm not surprised people misinterpret my body language.
Steph, you're a combination worst of both worlds, haha. A great smile and a curious mind is a wonderful mix for misunderstandings. But I think that once men see you and those like you in a broader context (talking to other people, etc.), they would pick up that you're just very friendly and talkative.
Honestly, sometimes a man can be deliberately delusional as well.@steph843 -
Wow Im going to Russia!
Hmm. Well that`s never happened to me unless it was already in a dating context so... I don't know!
Ok @Emilythefairy - let's talk about that for 3 hours!
Sometimes I have the opposite issue with blogging. I assume that if someone really likes my writing, they just like my writing, and don't necessarily like me as much.
I'm surprised about that, @nimbusthedragon - , given your artistic abilities. Do you usually assume that a guy just really likes your art if he acts very excited about your artwork? Smart
I'm very talkative, and really like making new friends. This is almost always misconstrued. I also do it sometimes though, think a guy might be interested in me when really I might just like the same TV show as them. It's a good thing to keep in mind.
@GreekPhysique - sarcasm....lol
I misread all signals given to be as "this person wants to be my friend, or is just being nice/polite", however fortunate or unfortunate that may be.
I always assume a guy is just being nice until he starts complimenting or grabbing body parts. I made a guy mad once for wasting his time by not telling him I was only 17. I try very hard not to waste anyone's time these days.
Wow the last part -- never knew.
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@GreekPhysique - Who could resist using that phrase? I know I couldn't.
@wildchildofthebluemoon - I do that, too. I figure it makes life less complicated in general.
I know that I am interesting and eccentric and fun to talk to. Guys try to talk to me all the time, because it's no pressure on their part. Until they try to talk to me about music. Then I know I'm in trouble. Every boyfriend I've ever had started getting gushy on me the moment the conversation turned to music. In fact, now that I think about it, my fiancee and I started seriously flirting over a game of Rock Band. If only I hadn't started critiquing someone's drumming technique, and then immediately gotten up to sing. Wow. I've got to re-think my life now...
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