June 30, 2013
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*I'm going to Los Angeles this month. I go about every two years for a convention. I think it's bittersweet because the last time I went, I was at a high point in my life. I now am going at a definite low point, but hoping to gain some spiritual and mental momentum to catch up on lost time.
*Everyone has that one picky friend who always finds reasons as to why this girl or that guy isn't good enough to date. I find myself wondering lately, is it worth an intervention? In my not so humble opinion, there are certain peak ages for dating. Watching a few of my male friends starting to slip out of their late twenties, discarding opportunities left and right...what are they waiting for? Do they even know?
*Church continues to frustrate. As I get older, I'm more impressed with the value of preaching. I learn a lot when I hear a wise man talk, and I feel like I desperately need that. But church fellowship is just difficult. When I was younger, I used to think quite little of those who left the church simply because they wanted more friends rather than ideological reasons. I kind of understand such a mindset now.
*Men, maybe you can help me out on this one. Is it possible to have just one woman in your life? I feel that inevitably, it's a quiet life for me for months and months followed by a sudden onrush of about umpteen women in two days. You're going to laugh, but I deliberately did not talk to a woman at a birthday party yesterday, even though she was an attractive librarian (I'm a reader, sue me). Of course, I wake up this morning, and the woman who ignored my date request a few weeks ago is now apologizing and claiming she meant to reply but forgot. I'm trying to be gracious, but obviously rather cynical...
*When is it gossip, and when are you warning a friend? We all know someone or other in the Xanga community who is a jerk. So when your friend friends her or starts spending a lot of time with her...should you say something? I've had multiple friends tell me that so-and-so stabbed them in the back. Just how many bodies have to pile up before it's time to stop giving him a chance to clean up his act?
*I'm becoming a bit of a soccer addict. Spent $130 on gear the other day, own season tickets to a local team, and am playing at least once a week. There's just something about the beautiful game...I think the passing is the draw, the way players weave in and out, hitting the right spots in time and then suddenly launching their bodies. I love patterns, and the way eleven players can sequence their rhythms enthralls me.
*I will be making my own announcement to support the Xanga fundraiser soon. I did already buy several memberships, so if you want to be part of the new Xanga but don't have $, please let me know and I can accommodate some of you. Of course, my friends come first, etc.
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soccer is my favorite sport to play. so great.
That's great, @JustPlainMorgie - :) didn't know that about you.
I always wanted to play soccer, but never had the opportunity. I enjoy watching it in person when I can actually see how they move and pass the ball.
I really hope the convention is inspirational for you.
My parents have always felt that what they term the "heart" of the church is the most important thing. If the congregation is driven to follow Christ and actively reaching out to the community, that's where they want to be. That's why they go where they do even though Mom will sometimes say to the pastor, "I agreed with almost everything you said today, and that doesn't happen often, so I wanted to point it out!"
As for Xanga, while I think $48 is a totally reasonable price, I am not willing to pay it nor do I want anyone paying it for me. The reason being is, if things in my life continue as they are and I have to start paying medical insurance premiums as well, I won't be able to afford the internet. So there's no sense wasting it.
Church is good but odd for me, because as I have grown it is not just what can the church offer me, in music, worship, preaching, groups.. but also are there places for me to plug in and be of use. I really feel better when I am doing something else besides just "observing". And that isnt a judgement on anyone else, it is where I have come to spiritually. And really, the last couple of week have been hard on me because I hate church-shopping and just want to be invested in and invest in a church. I hate coming in a church and not knowing anyone. I hate going into a church and judging them, but I have to think about my own growth personally. Is this a place I could grow individually and in community?
As far as the females go. I say there is no problem in the beginning meeting or going out with multiple women, because you just dont know what will happen. I would liken it to going on job interviews; however, when you get an offer at a job.. well, you either take the offer or you dont. Therefore, when dating or "talking" there is a point where you get serious enough you have to make things official with one and let down the others. And it is funny, because if you talk to older people, they will tell you how they went out with women every week when looking for someone. they weren't a jerk or narcissistic, that's just how one dated until they found someone they liked and that liked them as well.
p.s. - Sorry this is a low point right now for you. What was it that made it so great two years ago? What makes it so much less now? You can msg me or if you wanna talk sometime let me know man. This is a rough time for me too right now, I wouldnt call it a low.. but it is a major change. Blessings Greek!
When is it gossip, and when are you warning a friend?
My thoughts on gossip are arbitrary at best.
These are some of the questions I consider before sharing gossip:
1. Who am I being loyal to? Why?
2. Am I speaking in the direction of truth and love? (Not self-interest!)
3. Who benefits from knowing this gossip? Who suffers in light of it?
4. Will I regret sharing this knowledge in the future?
5. By sharing this gossip, am I keeping my integrity? Am I speaking with courage and not cowardice?
6. What does this gossip communicate about my perception/projection of reality?
7. Am I making any assumptions?
8. How would I feel if someone said this about me? How would it hurt?
9. How can I communicate this gossip to avoid needless misunderstandings, drama, and sadness?
10. Who/what am I saving by sharing this information?
I am sure there have been other questions I've asked myself in the past, but these are the ones that immediately come to mind. (Some not so immediately, ha.) Maybe this list helps, or maybe it doesn't. If you would like to discuss any of these questions individually, just message me. I would love to hear your thoughts.
In many cases, I will spend so much time considering the answers to these questions that I miss my opportunity to share gossip. Or I share it too late. I may call a friend the next day after a conversation and share information/gossip with him or her. My friend will respond with something like, "Why didn't you tell me this yesterday when I brought ______ up?" I try to prepare myself for this question beforehand and answer thoughtfully and honestly. Inevitably though, I run the risk of my friend questioning my loyalty. In the face of causing someone suffering, however, this is an accusation I am willing to live with in order to maintain integrity.
An influx of women hey, I know what you mean but with guys. It seems there will be nothing and then all of sudden there's four of them. It's like what the hell is going on. I didn't realise you were at a low point, I'm sorry to hear that! I doubt staging and intervention for your friend(s) will change their behaviour but I suppose you could try. It's not because you think they can't get anyone but you want to see them happy right? And they're giving up some chances at happines?? I thinkyou'd have to make that clear. Men are different from women though so they might not even get offended. If soemone said that to me I would be really offended, but I am sensitive and insecure hahaha I used to play indoor and outdoor soccer in rep teams until I was about 16, I've often wanted to get back into it but never have.
Mmm that one bullet point about the gossip. And the one about the dating. Makes me worry, I feel like I'm almost to the point where it gets a lot harder to date.
In good news, we got a new preacher today. He is a fire and brimstone type. This is thrilling.
Ah I love a good soccer match. It's funny to me when people say watching soccer is boring because the don't score much. They just don't see the beauty of the game. To me it's not about the goals, it's what leads to the goals that fascinates me. One quick step and it works but one touch to many and you've got to start all over. I find it entertaining. I guess it just catches better for some than others.
I'm sorry you are at a low point right now :/ but you know, the low points are chances for us to grow
For dating I don't understand people that much. I just go with my gut. If it feels right I go for it. I don't really like game playing. I mean, I think xD I guess if I like you, I will let you know. And I don't usually like more than one person at a time. That's just how I'm wired, I guess. 
For gossip... I guess it depends how good a friend the friend is. If she's my best friend I will warn her straight away. I won't even think twice. If it's someone I'm not sure about... might react kind of mad at me or something then I'd just not say anything lol My kids are so great at soccer. I play with them too sometimes lol But I am rubbish at it xD I think it's a great sport but for some reason it has a bad reputation in the US, right? Everywhere else it's the best sport! Also, that's great of you to buy so many memberships. I just listened to the interview with John and it was so cool 
It made me feel positive about Xanga's future. 
It's nice to hear about your life 
I think people should be warned about jerks...the more I understand soccer the better I like it, there was a great game on tv last night between Spain and Brazil...those guys are good.
FUTBOL IS THE GREATEST SPORT ON THIS PLANET!
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